You Can't Separate Your Life

I used to hate mixing my worlds – like in that scene where a young Alan Turing in Imitation Game depicts his necessity to separate the food types on his lunch plate. I had to separate my family life from my church life from my hobbies. Everything had it’s own special place, and while there were certain understandable overlaps, nothing good seemed to come out of mixing them. This was my paradigm.

Over and over again, though, this paradigm proved to be a fragile one. When a rare family trigger event would happen, I was especially unprepared to deal with it. I’m talking about weeks-long lethargy, napping all day and night in darkness, feeling sorry for myself, and getting up only for basic necessities. My connection to the outside world could easily subsist solely on the e-mails I’m forced to respond to. Then, at some point, I might stare out of the window and think, “I could go for a chicken biscuit right now.”

That thought would inevitably lead to some sunshine, fresh air, and a visit to Cheeky’s Sandwiches.

It’s just not possible to keep your various "worlds" compartmentalized forever. Doing so only exercises the ignorance of your vulnerabilities. It makes us weaker to deal with the problems as they arise, when frankly, we are able to face them much better with a comprehensive life-view.

The lessons we learn are transferrable.

FreethoughtShawn Li